Stories from: Summerhall, Edinburgh

 

Staying at home

My Dad’s body was at home for a week in winter and did smell awfully after two days so he

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In the way

As a farmer’s wife I decided I’d like to be buried right in the centre of our biggest flattest field

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Smoke gets in your eyes

My own experience has been of home death of a partner divorced but reconciled. Could not have the funeral we

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Another daddy

Sitting on a bench on the top of a hill, after shouting “hello” into the world, my 3 year old

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Keeping her alive

My wife Yeal died at the age of 31, a couple of months after giving birth since then I kept

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Biodegradable cremation

My mother left a letter describing what she wanted after her death. This included a bio-degradable coffin. Further on in

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Bones in a bin liner

A Brazilian friend of mine told me that after her dad died, her brother kept his bones in a bin

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Celebration or not?

I feel that the current custom of funerals “celebrating the life of” often conceals and impedes the expression of grief

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Uncarers

We sat with out 94 year old father while he died all day of pneumonia – at about 8 pm

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Social Denial

Not a story but a suggestion. As our society is increasingly death denying it makes it much harder for those

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The Prince of Egypt

The first death I know about was my great grandmother. I was quite young, maybe 4 or 5 and was

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Thunderclap

My father was of the “Just put me in a binbag” conversation re his funeral. At the undertaker, however, when

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Tea Music

When I had a brush with cancer I started deciding on funeral music. When I mentioned it to some people

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Matriculating

I’ve been seeing those golden points all my life. I have lately begun to speculate that they are my matriculating

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Strange taboos

I met an old lady who told me that when she was a little girl her mother handed her the

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Dealing with death

When I was 9 years old my father taught me how to lay out the dead when one of the

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Balloon Ride 2

My sister’s husband died days after his fiftieth birthday. She wanted to take him home from hospital to put him

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Oma Wacka

So when Oma Wacka died I was probably 12. She had always been somewhere around, in the garden or the

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Nana

It was a couple of years ago. I was stage crewing for a show. I was encouraged by my family

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Box or bin liner?

I have always been fascinated by death, not necessarily from a morbid perspective. From an early age I recognised it

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First death

When I was a little boy my goldfish died. It was still, in its bowl, lying one eye up on

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Leaving Party

A friend of the family, my dad’s old school friend, threw a party when she learn she had incurable cancer.

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Fear

Dying, that I’m not afraid of………like most people, more afraid of a painful death than death itself,

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Beep

I remember watching my great aunt pass. My cousin messaged to tell us the time was close. It was the

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Withdrawal

When I was around 8 years old my great-grandmother died at the age of 99. Around two weeks before I

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Overheating

My Dad died last year (2015). He was Irish, brought up Catholic and we had him cremated here in England

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Everything went wrong

I wish I had seen this before my grandparents died. One quick story. At my grandad’s funeral (same crematorium for

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Grief

I was a nurse for 44 years, worked on ICU, hospices and labour. My own Dad just died at 88

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Nurse stories

(Worked as a Macmillan nurse within the Edinburgh community) A 70 year old woman who has never taken alcohol, found

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Countdown

In the last days before he died my husband asked to watch the TV (very unusual). He said he wanted

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Volvo for sale

When my Nan was on her deathbed she was asked about her obituary. She said: “I want… Margret Hampson Died peacefully

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Tom Beetroot

Once we had a rabbit (Tom Beetroot) who escaped from his hutch. We all thought he was dead for about

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Dead crow

Once on a shamanic journey I had the experience of BEING DEAD. I was a dead crow, on my back,

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Fiddlers at the grave

I have a story for you Liz, which I heard from my friend Ros at the funeral of our friend.

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Roses and dresses

I am 26 years old and in the last year I have died almost twice. As a Greek Orthodox and

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Jacqueline Wilson

When my auntie died, who was also my Godmother, it was the first funeral I had ever been to and

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With Nellie

Toby’s mum is buried [ashes] on our allotment along with our dog, Nellie. Pam would be very pleased as she’s

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Memorial

When my mother died in 1998 we thought it would be good to busy her ashes and create a memorial

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Sorry for your loss

In our western culture, we naturally say “sorry” to those grieving for a deceased one. After seeing this show, I

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The right way and the army way

I was very nervous to visit my father’s grave once I received word that his stone had been engraved. This

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Denial

I asked my mother what my grandma wanted for her funeral (my grandma was very unwell at the time and

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Washed

I was especially touched by your washing story, when you have a child you are so protective of who cares

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Washing

I could never wash my parent’s bodies. My mother died 6 years ago and she would have been horrified for

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Nursing

I can relate to many of your stories, being a nurse I have witnessed all aspects of death. I feel

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Balloon ride

A brief story of my sister whose husband died days after his 50th birthday. She wanted to take him home

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Modest receptacle

I felt under pressure when planning my father’s funeral to keep his brother ‘happy’ by going with more elaborate coffin

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Beer toast

When my grandmother died I was away, in Germany, and as I knew about her death I bought a beer

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Life support

When my grandpa had a massive stroke and was taken to hospital and it became clear he would not recover,

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Catharsis

My friend’s dad died when we were both 17 and her mum’s valentine friend organised an evening where her and

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Connection

I am 20 and I have been surprised with two pregnancies and have gone through the process of having an

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